We already know how tough it is when we are dealing with coming out, but what we don’t realize is that our parent’s and families have a coming out process as well. My mother recently told me she wanted to write about her experience when I was coming out, how hard/easy it was to accept, what the adjustment was like, etc. Luckily my mother accepted me with open arms. Sometimes parent’s and families aren’t very open and can possibly shut you out because they ran into the same closet you just came out of. Right? It sparked my idea to inform parent’s and families that there ARE support groups, websites, and books to help you through it and to give you a better understanding of your children.
PFLAG which stands for Parent’s, Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays. This website is very informative. It has extensive support, advocacy & issues, education & programs, an online news room, and also a place for you to take action. This website even has a page dedicated to LGBTQ terminology. This site is one of my favorites and one I hope you take the time to read.
This website was created by a woman and a mother of 2 gay children. She writes from her own experience, what her children went through, and how she felt during the process. I love that her website has many links to different books you can read. Whether you’re a child getting your parent a book for extra support, or you’re the parent looking for support, there are many options for you to look into. She has a link to personal family stories which lets you know you’re not alone. Other parent’s are right there with you feeling the same way. You can even see what famous people are gay/lesbian! Check it out.
This is an article that I came across and really loved. The woman who wrote it has been a teacher and counselor for over 20 years and a therapist for 25 years. Here is an excerpt from the article:
“Parenting gay children can be challenging, rewarding and ultimately life changing. The level of acceptance of sexual orientation and gender identity by fathers and mothers can detract from or expand a child’s healthy growth and development in countless ways. Too many of our LGBT (lesbian, gay bisexual, and transgender) youth face emotional isolation, rejection, and complete withdrawal from parents that lead many to depression, drugs and alcohol and even homelessness.”
These are just a few of the resources out there. Parent’s, please take the time to check out these websites. And if you’re a child who has a parent(s) or family that needs support, help them out. Go out and get them a book, or maybe print some of the information off of these sites and leave it for them to read. Let’s support each other!