Inspiration is Everywhere

I have always been someone who is a deep thinker. If you look at me it may not seem that way, but the gears are always going inside my head; continuous scenarios replaying, questions and curiosities, what if’s and why not’s, constantly going without end. I’m one of those people. I am also one of those people who journals a lot. I like to get my thoughts out on paper, especially because I have many of them. Not everyone is up for deep conversations so I am left with my pen and my journal.

It’s interesting though because I never enjoyed writing in school or having to write in a specific format. That’s not a strength of mine, however, after just taking an English course this past semester I was pleasantly surprised at my passing grade AND having one of the third highest percentages in the class. Pretty cool and yes, I’m bragging. ;)

Recently I started reading Jamie Tworkowski’s book titled, “If You Feel Too Much.” Jamie is founder of the non-profit organization To Write Love on Her Arms, a movement dedicated to presenting hope and finding help for people struggling with depression, addiction, self-injury, and suicide ( This book is deep and raw. It is a compilation of personal stories, e-mails, and essays that let’s people know they are not alone.


I loved blogging, mostly for fun, but I really enjoyed knowing someone may have gotten something out of it. I haven’t in so long because life can get in the way. That daily routine we all get lost in. Jamie’s book has been a reminder for me to keep doing what I love and to keep my own personal stories going. It has also reminded me to keep inspiring others as much as I can.

“It’s better to be true than to be cool. Be yourself. Do what you love.”

Younger Lesbian vs. Older Lesbian

Just this past weekend I was clearing through my “random/odd-mixed” box of crap. As I was throwing out old junk, I came across rainbow-heart keychains and various buttons (which are all rainbow colors, too) with sayings such as: We Are All Equal, Love is Love, and All Families Matter. This made me laugh out loud. That was the Younger Lesbian.


The Lesbian Bat Signal
The Lesbian Bat Signal

Looking at them I remembered my youth, all my curiosity and questions, my coming out, and my NEED to show everyone I was a lesbian. I sported those things everywhere I went; on my purse, my keys (which I used to hang from my pocket), etc. I even had shirts that pretty much screamed I’M A HOMO. For me, I needed to be identified as a lesbian. I finally knew who I was and I needed to show everyone I had figured it out. Even in my appearance, I used to dress quite edgy. I had a tee-shirt with a tie on the front that I used to wear constantly. I made my hair short and choppy. All while showing off my rainbow buttons. Thinking this would make me look “gayer” and give off my gay vibes. Oh, being young…

I haven’t come in contact with any LGBT youth recently, so I’m curious if that need to show your rainbow pride still exists. When I was younger, the LGBT community wasn’t talked about as much as it is today (we’re moving forward, whoop). Don’t get me wrong, I gay myself out for Pride and I do currently drive around with an HRC equality sticker on my bumper. I will always be an advocate. I am part of the LGBT community and equality still needs to be voiced.

As the Older Lesbian, my need to be “rainbow’d out” no longer exists. I look at it as – I am who I am. I like women and I also like chocolate. There’s no difference to me. I actually find all the rainbow stuff now to be quite cheesy and a bit tacky, lol! I still LOVE rainbows, but they don’t need to be plastered on everything I own. I used to want a rainbow flag hanging from my house (whenever I eventually got one), and now I just giggle. I guess I’m a bit more tasteful when it comes to showing my individual pride. :D

Yes, I'm a lesbian, but I've donated the rainbow earrings ;)
Yes, I’m a lesbian, but I’ve donated the rainbow earrings ;)

Please feel free to add your own Young Vs. Old thoughts, I’d love to hear them! This topic just made me laugh. Growing up is such an experience, isn’t it? ;P

“Faking It” on MTV


Alright. Here’s my dilemma… I don’t know where to begin with this one. First off, I applaud MTV for once again showcasing the LGBT community on their network. Buuuuuuut, I am not too thrilled about how they showcased them.

The premiere/pilot of “Faking It” was just this past week.  As I was cruising the various stations on my TV tonight, I spot two girls kissing and immediately stop my channel surfing. I had to see the whole episode, so as the good dedicated lesbian that I am I went online and start watching it (you can watch it here –

This show is basically about two BFF’s, Amy (Rita Volk, the blondie) and Karma (Katie Stevens, boy crazed brunette) who pretend to be lesbians to gain social acceptance at their super-tolerant high school (which oddly enough is in Texas, granted Austin is supposed to be super hip – so my bro says). Anyway, if I knew being a lesbian was so cool I would have come out a lot sooner! Jokes aside, in the world we live in today, and how far we’ve come with LGBT equality, it’s as if this show is going backwards. Helloooo, be yourself and you’ll get friends that way. Yes, let’s teach our youth to lie and pretend to be someone they aren’t just to fit in. Good message MTV! Wait, let me remember, it is MTV and majority of this station consists of bullshit.

Ok, calm down Katie, there’s still more to discuss.

I haven’t even gotten to the hunky teenage boy who Karma undresses with her eyes every time she sees him. But wait, you’re supposed to be a lesbian, Karma… ugh, so confusing! Anyhow, it’s clear that Amy hates the entire set-up and doesn’t like “faking it” but does what makes her BFF happy. How sweet is she? I can already sense the “Oh shit, I’m a reeeeal lesbian and I’m going to fall in love with my best friend” situation. Anyone else feel that, too? It’s a given. MTV you can hire me now ;)

Long story short, Amy and Karma decide to keep going with the fake lesbian spiel and run for home-coming queens since now they are oh so “popular”. HA, it’s about to get cray! Cue Lauren, all high on her traditions and old-school ways, overhears the girls and how they’re making everyone believe they’re lesbians to fit in. Home-coming speech time comes around and BAM, Lauren blows those fake masks right off


Wait for it...
Wait for it…
Mhmm, I was sold here too.
Mhmm, I was sold here too.

Sealed with a kiss. The crowd goes wild.

Amy once again comes to the rescue of her dear BFF Karma and plants one right on her. And there you have it… the fakers successfully steal the show. Hmm, but that Amy… after that kiss… you know she was feeling more than she thought she would. Of course. One of them had to or this show wouldn’t exist.

Lesbian Romance Novel “London Calling” by Clare Lydon + Q&A!


This hot on the press, debut lesbian romance novel has already hit #1 on the UK Amazon Charts after only being released for one day! It’s my job to get the latest and greatest out to you :) So here is a bit about the book including a lovely Q&A with Clare Lydon!

When the plane took off, I wondered what Karen was doing, if she was happy, knew I was leaving or wanted me back. Whatever, it was too late now. I was gone…”

Jess Sharp is at a crossroads – back in London, living in her parents’ spare room,  jobless and single. Not quite the irresistible package she was aiming for at age 32. One night, things take an upward turn when she meets someone who could be a game-changer. However, everything in her riotously chaotic life seems to get in the way, including her best friend’s wedding, far too much tequila and the ghosts of girlfriends past. The course of true love has never been so injury-prone. Will Jess eventually overcome her romantic ineptitude and find her happy ever after? Or will she continue to trip over her own feet in the race for romance?

A cracking debut novel from a new UK talent that zips along with sparkling dialogue and believable, yet original characters.

About The Author

Clare Lydon is a London-based author who penned her first novel at primary school and it scored 9.5/10. She’s still not sure what she was docked half a point for. A lack of lesbians perhaps? 

London Calling certainly addresses that issue, featuring a cast of London ladygays & their mates who Clare hopes are reflective of life in modern-day London. She’s already working on her second book which should be out later this year.


So you live in London?

I do – I love cities and New York is my second favourite. I moved to London in 1998 and have lived all around the place but mainly in Stoke Newington (lesbian central) and now in glorious Greenwich, just a stone’s throw from the Thames.

What inspired you to put your fingers on a keyboard?

I wrote my first novel in primary school – the words, images and cover, plus I even put a bar code on the back. Great attention to detail for a ten year old. I’ve been writing ever since through my work – I’m a journalist & editor – but never took the time to focus on my fiction writing. I’ve had this novel half-written for around four years so I thought it was about time to show it some love.

Any hiccups along the way?

Not really, just that I realised if you put your mind to something you can achieve it. I sound like a self-help manual don’t I? But once I was in the writing groove, I started the next one too and it just flowed out.

Ooo, a next one – so when can we expect that?

This year definitely, hopefully within six months. It’s a completely new and totally different book to London Calling. It’s set in Devon for a start!

Do you have a favorite genre of music to write to?

I tend to write in silence mostly and chatter out loud to myself constantly. But sometimes I’ll select a playlist from Napster and have it playing in the background. I can’t have anything I know the words to though as it distracts me and I sing along. My head is full of song lyrics…

What are you reading at the moment?

I’m just about to start Kiki Archer’s One Foot Onto The Ice which I’ve heard good things about. I’m also really excited to read Nick Alexander’s new one, Other Halves.

Who’s your favorite author?

Alison Bechdel, hands down. I’ve followed her Dykes To Watch Out For series since its inception and her wit, artistry and political astuteness shine through every page. Her subsequent graphic novels have been a treat too.

What’s your guilty pleasure?

Come Dine With Me – my brother lives in Canada and was on the Canadian version which was hysterical. He came second so not too shabby! I also cannot be in the same room as Liquorice Allsorts without eating the lot. It’s impossible.

If you could be stuck in an elevator with any three celebrities, who would you choose?

Kate Winslet, Ellen DeGeneres and Katy Perry. We’d laugh, we’d sing, we’d fight over who gets to play Leonardo di Caprio in the Titanic scene…

Clare Lydon’s debut novel London Calling is out on Kindle now, with other digital versions following soon. The paperback version will be out at the end of April.


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Book Review & Interview: “Guilty Hearts” by Jade Winters


Please read the little summary above ^

Before getting to know the English language (as in UK English), I never knew what a “honey trap” meant or was. Maybe that’s just me and my lack of expanded vocabulary? Anywho, this book sent me through a mix of emotions.

First we meet Rachel. Oh is she a looker! She is one of those girls everyone thinks is straight but is wearing her rainbow cape everywhere she goes. My first impression of her was confident, carefree, and looking for no-strings-attached fun with the ladies. Then we meet the successful interior designer, (also very attractive), Kathryn, who lacks that excitement she so desperately wants in her personal life. Oh that Kathryn, unbeknown to her, when she first meets Rachel she is clueless to the set-up (as she should be). Cue honey trap. Yes, I used it – Kathryn’s husband sets her up! *gasp* Poor Gareth (Kathryn’s hubby) – thinking it would be as innocent as slight flirting. What he ends up initiating is more than any of us expected. The connection is instant and undeniable between the two beauties.

As for my review, I would definitely recommend this book to anyone who enjoys an easy read and a love story that’ll leave you with a smile on your face. I felt for these characters (we meet and love many) and join them on their journeys to finding themselves and the meaning of love and committment. I did find myself wanting more detail in particular scenes. I’m a person who likes to envision every moment taking place – not saying I couldn’t – just wanted a bit more.

I won’t give it away, but in the story Kathryn does something for Rachel that I actually “awed”  out loud to. :) I love moments like those! I look forward to reading more of Jade Winter’s novels!

I also had the wonderful opportunity to ask Jade a few questions:

When did you decide, ‘hey I like this writing thing, I’m going to do it full-time’? Or maybe it went a bit differently, but when and what was it for you that made you want to do this as a career?

I’ve always enjoyed writing from when I was a kid. Back then I dreamt of writing scripts and having them made into films (sigh). Never in a million years did I think I’d be writing novels, as I saw authors as very serious people of which I’m most definitely not. I ended up writing my first book by accident. I had an idea for an article about the gay by nature versus nurture debate and I thought –  what if a gay woman had amnesia and couldn’t remember she was gay – would she instinctively know?  I knew it would be a great story, so I thought hey why don’t you write it. So I did. I found I liked putting stories down on paper and so decided what better way to live than to do something you love every single day. Voila here I am. :-)

Everyone has their inspirations. What drives/inspires your writing?

Necessity! I have little films going on in my head which keep repeating themselves until I get them out of system. So for me, It’s either write or go insane.

Not sure how you authors do it, especially with some of the topics/stories I’ve come across, but how much research do you put into your books? How much went into Guilty Hearts?

Normally, the research I cover will mainly have to do with the characters jobs. For Guilty Hearts I got totally distracted and spent more time than I should have looking at all the amazing cat den’s people have created for their pets. Most of my stories tend to deal with emotions, so I draw from my own experiences or nag friends and family for theirs.

What was the hardest and easiest thing about writing Guilty Hearts?

I wouldn’t say there were any hard parts to it as Guilty hearts is quite a straight forward love story. The easiest part was building the growing attraction between the main characters, because I really liked the idea of them as a couple :-) So it was interesting to watch how they progressed.

What environment do you find yourself writing in the most? Do you have any pre-writing habits/rituals?

I have to write in a stress-free environment which means no distractions from the TV, phone etc.

Before I start writing I get into the habit of exercising every day with a half hour run along the beach. Also, out goes the tea, in comes lemon and ginger. Sugar and carbohydrates also go out the window as without them I think clearer. Obviously once the book is finished I revert back to old habits :-)

Give us 5 completely random facts about you (not author/writing related)

I always pick snails up in the rain and put them in a safe place so no one stands on them.

I drink celery juice every morning despite it being the one thing I detest most in the world.

I spend way too much time on YouTube watching cat videos.

I love watching old black and white films especially ones starring Bette Davis or Joan Crawford

I read my first lesfic book in 1988


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Book Review: “Playing My Love” by Angela Peach

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After I finished this novel I thought to myself, “how on earth am I going to review it and not give anything away?”

Book blurb from Amazon:

I’d never believed in love at first sight. I mean, it had never happened to me, so I guess I just didn’t think about it. But then… 
Darcy. Beautiful, kind, intelligent Darcy, who showed me a whole new meaning to the word love, and how to live when I thought there was nothing to live for. 
While teaching me how to play the guitar a deep friendship developed between us, but it only made me want what I couldn’t have…or could I? Faced with difficult times and hard choices, Darcy becomes a crucial element in my life. 
I’m hiding something from her though. Something big that could destroy all the trust we’ve built. 
Was it love at first sight? No. 
It was so much more.”

Lesbian fiction author, Angela Peach, has done it again! ‘Playing My Love’ captivated me and I honestly felt for these characters from page one. I felt their happiness, their sorrow, their uplifting spirits, their love, as well as their journeys. This book is categorized as a romantic comedy, but I think it was much more. Deeper really.

“How did she do that? I stared at her in amazement. Without even talking to me, she’d completely altered my mood from depressed and suicidal to hopeful and uplifted.”

It’s true in other reviews stating that this book plays your heartstrings. As a hopeless romantic myself and one who loves stories where love is challenged, fought for, and hoping to be won in the end – this is definitely a book that hooked me. Now, with saying that and not giving it all away, Angela has given 2 alternate endings – one of which you may choose for yourself. To be honest though, I felt it was a bit confusing to have to read one ending and then fall into another. But hey, way to switch it up! My favorite was #2 – you’ll just have to find out exactly what that is when you read it ;)

“No matter where I was, if I wasn’t with Alison, I would always be thinking about her. My feelings for her weren’t ever going to go away.”

Have you ever been in love but couldn’t act upon it? Everyone has their reasons why and Angela really takes you through their individual journeys. I definitely recommend this book. It’s a great easy read that has light-hearted moments, comedic banter, and deeper meanings.


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YOUR questions answered by lesbian author, Kiki Archer!

The time has come my lovely friends and followers! You got the chance to video interview lesbian fiction author, Kiki Archer, and now it’s time to hear her responses.

We had so many wonderful questions sent in. Thank you to all those who participated! Take a look and see if you’ve been featured ;)

EXCLUSIVE chance to interview lesbian author, Kiki Archer!

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Here at LGBTQ Culture, I am offering you the exclusive chance to “Question Kiki.”

All you have to do is record a 10-15 second video clip of yourself on your phone asking Kiki a question.

Send the video clip to

Remember to introduce yourself and ask something interesting.

I will be posting her responses sometime next week.

Kiki Archer is a UK-based, best-selling, award-winning author. Her debut novel “But She Is My Student,” won the UK’s 2012 SoSoGay Best Book Award. Its sequel “Instigations,” took just 12 hours from its release to reach the top of the UK lesbian fiction chart; and Kiki’s third novel “Binding Devotion,” was a finalist in the 2013 Rainbow Awards. All quickly became bestsellers in their genre, and Kiki’s fourth offering, “One Foot Onto The Ice,” has been her most successful to date, breaking into the American contemporary fiction top 100 as well as achieving the US and UK lesbian fiction number 1.

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Elliott Sailors and her gender-bending story


First can I just start by saying how much I LOVE stories like this? I love things out-of-the-norm and this is definitely one of those things!

Elliott Sailors was your typical female model until the day she decided to ‘revitalize’ her career and become a male model. Yes, I said it – MALE model. No, there was no sex change everyone. Her outer appearance became more masculine and she started to market herself differently.

I really liked what Huffington Post had to say in their article:

Sailors discovered that she could extend her career in this new gender role, rather than try to extend her tenure in the youth-obsessed female modeling world. “In the industry, females are expected to look younger longer than males are,” she said. “And I knew I was getting older.”

She also told Huffington Post that, “I’ve never identified as a male, but I’ve always described myself as a guy,” explaining that the career shift is not just a “phase.”

It’s inspiring to see women like her out there not afraid to be different. I also love that straight women will look at her as a guy and think, “he’s hot,” when HE is really a SHE! Haha. Ya never know who you’re looking at – never assume ;P

Her husband is also supportive of her new modeling gender identity. She says that people around them often assume they are a gay couple.


Here in the link to Huffington Post where her interview can be seen:

Wentworth Miller’s touching speech about coming out

Wentworth Miller, star of old hit show “Prison Break”, gave the most touching speech for the Human Rights Campaign about his painful coming out. He talks about what it was like being a gay child, the FIRST time he tried to kill himself at age 15, and being a gay man in the entertainment industry.

Now at age 41, he stands amongst his fellow LGBT community as a role model, a leader, and a man who wants to make a difference. To give those without courage a sense of belonging and knowing that you are not alone.

“Let me be to someone else, what no one was to me.”